Why I Left Facebook

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Facebook Routine

For many people in life, connecting to people is essential to their well-being and Facebook is a big part of that sense of well-being.  Facebook is a routine like brushing ones teeth on a daily basis.  For me it was no different. A year ago I was so close to my Facebook and friends from other places (many of whom I did not know or know very well) that it began to become a problem.  You ask how so? How could connecting with a friend be a problem?  And to answer that question we must know why I left Facebook.

How do you compare?

As most people who use Facebook already know, the application lets the user “share” pictures, videos, ideas, projects, opinions and basically their life (if they so choose) with anyone else who is allowed to become a “friend”.  (Anyone can become a friend which I also find kind of ironic because if you have never met someone in real life or even know them, how are they really a friend?)

Now I used Facebook in all the many popular ways of sharing this and that but the trouble started when I began to compare my life with other people’s lives.  In an attempt to minimize some comparing however, I would avoid viewing the “news” feeds from some people while viewing only the ones I cared about.  But in the end I was still feeling dissatisfied.  For me Facebook was like that. Using Facebook was an exercise in dissatisfaction because other people where doing things and making things go and enjoying life while I was just……there I go comparing again. And Facebook made it easy. Facebook not only made it easy to compare but it also made it feel okay.  Now as a Christian I should know better.

Facebook Bias

Facebook has been known to favor the left in America.  They are not favorable to Christians or Conservatives either.  Their philosophy simply rubs me the wrong way.  Another reason I don’t want to use Facebook.

Gossip

Did I mention the gossip aspect of Facebook?  In my opinion Facebook is a breeding ground for gossip whether it’s about truth or lies, gossip is everywhere on Facebook.  Since each user of Facebook is at liberty to post nearly anything that comes to mind, it’s anyone’s guess what might be said.  And when whatever it may be (good or bad) is said and is posted publicly, potentially hundreds of people (and probably more) have instantaneous knowledge of those intricate details. This information can be anything, whether it’s personal, funny, disgusting or sensitive, it’s all apparently fair game on Facebook.  And whatever it maybe that’s said or posted, everyone who’s a friend of a friend of a friend (of a friend) now knows.  I think you get my point. Sometimes this knowledge is helpful while other times it may do more damage than help.  And so my belief has been that if a person is not able to face the person and say it, then it probably shouldn’t be said on Facebook, especially if it’s not private.  And let us not neglect to mention what people post about themselves.  On Facebook it would seem just about anything goes and we all their to see it (or read it).  And so to avoid being caught up in any Facebook frenzies over words and pictures, I decided it was best for me to leave Facebook–before I said something publicly I might regret.  (That is why I post it on a blog……heh heh)

Addiction

Of course Facebook doesn’t have to be all about comparing ones life with another or sharing our lives publicly but I have since learned there is also an addiction aspect.  Personally I did not like the feeling I having each day that I must know what others are doing, saying, posting or thinking at any given moment and that they would gladly share it with everyone!  Pieces of their lives (and my own) were showing up in the “news” feed 24 hours a day.  It’s true, I am for the most part a private person but with Facebook, I felt the constant urge to tell all those “friends” what I think.  After all, they posted what they posted because they wanted my response, right? Here’s the best part. If your post is cute, disgusting, awesome, stupid or clever enough it might even get a like and a re-post! The cycle of feeling the need to know and feeling the need to share opinions and pictures never ends on Facebook.  And so after one year of feeling stuck inside the Facebook hamster wheel I finally made the plunge to leave Facebook for good (hopefully).

Now I beg someone to hit me over the head with a large brick if I ever join Facebook again. (not really….just use a board)

 

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X people, Employment Killers and Real Hope

I don’t know of any kind of work or place of employment that does not involve more than one person for it to be considered a workplace.   (But if you know of any I would love to hear it)  Whether it be during any stage of the hiring process or involving the exchange of goods or services –more than one person is necessary for the work to work.    This news can become a trouble for any person who really doesn’t enjoy (or has a fear of) working with people.    More specifically–for one who is fearful of the expectations involved in completing a task and doing it correctly for another person.   Of course, there are exceptions to these fears of task completing correctly for others, along with the overall unknowns involved but in general terms, fear of some type is always involved.   On a personal note, I might add the fear involved isn’t the same fear as being scared of a bear.  A better word to describe the fear I mean might be apprehension and many times coupled with inexplicable sadness to a point of immobility.   It is probably true, one might become immobile upon coming across a momma grizzly bear defending her cubs but for me in such a situation the words panic, terror and adrenaline rushes and no time to think come to mind.   And yet fear is the common denominator.   I call these people X people.

Now I believe many people live and even enjoy the challenge (and some don’t even consider it a challenge) of just doing whatever may or not be involved to complete the task(s) or work.   To these people living to exceed the expectations of others is what comes to mind when they wake up in the morning.   These folks (which is a majority I believe) are able to adapt and with relative ease to whatever situation is thrown at them.  Whether it be 4am, 6am, 10pm or later time has little effect on outlook and circumstances.  My wife is one of these people I am speaking of.   I believe people who are able to adapt the quickest and in the most efficient way to any situation usually do the best at whatever they set out to achieve.  I don’t believe it’s the smartest person who succeeds but the person most adaptable and fearless.   Now, if this type of excellence comes naturally for them, fear will rarely play a part in the process–despite what they may claim publicly.   Maybe you are this type of person (we’ll call an A person) and can adapt on a whim.   I am sorry that I cannot relate to you very well but I am excited (although not much excitement) but nevertheless, there is some personal excitement for your success.  Yea!

But what happens when you are not the A type person?   What happens when you are an X type person?  Let’s take a closer look at what I think a person X looks like.

We have already discussed fear as it relates to work and the X person.  And you probably have guessed or already know I consider myself to be fitting like a glove into the X category.  This has been the case for sometime now–from birth actually.  But unfortunately, what this really means is that us X people are not really enjoying living our life and forget about living it to it’s fullest potential.   On this earth, we just exist and live to survive and eat to survive etc but not much else really happens (as it appears).  Sure things happen to us, like they do with everyone else.   The weather changes around us,  the rain or snow falls and we get cancer or have kids, get married and don’t get married but whether it be the good, the bad or the ugly, what we do with circumstances and how we perform service for others is quite the trouble.

First, as I alluded to already, our service for and to others is virtually non-existent.  And positive circumstances are hard to come by even if none of what I’m talking about compares to being locked up and tortured for one’s faith.  This is happening more and more.   Of course for me,  there are days and hours when fear and apprehensions are lower.  And during these up times service for others appears more achievable and general circumstances are also interpreted in a more positive light regardless of the situation.   However, the reliability for predicting when this might take place in any given day is almost non-existent.  Perhaps better fitting descriptions for what I am describing are social anxiety and depression.   You may have heard about these little nuggets of crap.  Whatever your thoughts are about the terms, these two experiences coupled together with fear can be a real killer to just about anything faced in life.

Is there hope?  I hear there is but I don’t believe medication is usually the answer and at many times I have seen it make problems worse.  For me,  the underlining trouble with medication is that it treats symptoms and does not fix what is broken.   Real hope only comes from one place and His name is Jesus.  So you don’t get the wrong idea,  Jesus won’t make your life free from problems.  Perhaps just the opposite will occur as is the case for many followers who right now are being physically and mentally tortured for their faith.   But the only real hope and the one that really matters is, is your relationship with God and what you decide about Jesus Christ who is God Son–God manifest in the flesh.  If there is an afterlife,  where is it that you and I will end up after we die?  If you haven’t already,  I “hope” you will take the good person test linked at my website www.AreYouGood.us before you run out of time.

LORD, make me to know my end, And what is the measure of my days, That I may know how frail I am.
Indeed, You have made my days as hand breadths, And my age is as nothing before You; Certainly every man at his best state is but vapor. Selah
Surely every man walks about like a shadow; Surely they busy themselves in vain; He heaps up riches, And does not know who will gather them.
“And now, Lord, what do I wait for? My hope is in You.

Psalm 39:4-7

Related interest:  AreYouGood.us

Why are you cast down my soul?

Today I woke up like most days, but today is a day of deeper inexplicable sadness.  It seems like God is gone right now.  I have been crying out unto Him because I know the Bible speaks of Him watching me and caring for me (He sees and knows everything) but today doesn’t seem like that.   Yes, my soul is cast down.  Pray for me.
Related interest: Psalm 43:5